what was true for me in the past is that the better I prepared the content and structure of a presentation, the more I will feel confident in the moment. And the more I have all the information and know all the details, the more successful I will be in the event I'm preparing for.
What seems to be more true for me now is that the more present I am with the people in the room at that event, the higher the quality and output of that event will be.
So when I “prepare” for a presentation or a meeting, what I focus on now is just where my state of mind is. It is not even an active process but what naturally tends to happen is that I have less on my mind than before the presentation.
I seem to be more aware of when my mind goes off onto a train of thoughts that are not so useful such as “Oh what will I say when I'm up there on stage” or “I'm never going to make it” or “I'm super insecure right now”. All those thoughts still come up but from what I know now is that it's not useful to ride every train of thought until its last station. But I much rather get out a bit earlier and come back to the feeling of calmness that is always in me.
It just sometimes looks like it's not there.
This is what happened to me a week ago in front of a crowd of around 50 people.
It was probably the first time that I walked up and I did didn't know what I'm going to say.
And then I was in front of those people and it felt like something else took over.
It felt like I just knew what to say in that moment.
My mind was clear and I could just start speaking from my heart, without having in the way the schedule or the specific goals of the presentation.
And through that, I had a very very deep connection with the people there.
It was very energizing instead of draining which I felt like mostly in the past when I prepared everything in detail before.
I am grateful to have found this in myself and I am interested in hearing you sharing your experiences of where you found situations where wisdom in the moment just took over, rather than having the intellectual preparation mainly in your head.